Poor Poor Pitiful Me

I’ve got a couple of very unique medical issues that make me a unicorn of sorts, and not in a good way.  These are both conditions where only a handful out of every 100,000 people experience the problem.   One is harmless and the other is pretty dangerous.  One has no known cause or cure and the other has a possible cure but it involves surgery with a significant risk of death.

As to the first, it is called Transient Global Amnesia (TGA).  Only somewhere around 2 to 10 people out of 100,000 ever experience TGA.    And of those few, only about 10-15 % people have a repeat occurrence so that puts me more in the 1 out of 100,000 category since I’ve had two events so far.  Oddly my brother has also had two TGA events, even though it is not thought to be an inherited genetic condition. And I can say this much with confidence, it is one completely bizarre brain malfunction.

 I can describe it two ways, once from what I experience and then a second time from what others around me observe.  This is what my reality was both times.  I’m in a familiar place doing something very normal.  In the first case I was doing a push up in a group fitness class.   In the second I’m sitting in a  lounge talking to a stranger about his job.  What happened next was exactly the same both times.  In the blink of an eye, I’m transported through space and time to somewhere else where a frustrated person is fed up with my behavior.  One was my wife telling me we were going to the medical clinic because I had just asked her the same question for the 15th time.  The other was a hotel desk clerk, who was unhappy with my uncooperative behavior.  In both cases I lost about one hour of my memory, and never got it back. 

That is what I experienced, my friends who were there have told me what they saw. In exercise class they thought I was just trying out a new routine as the resident class clown. I was doing the exercises poorly and was repeating myself but it was 5:30 AM so nobody was really paying much attention. The second time there weren’t a lot of witnesses I could go back and talk to since I was travelling. But from what I did hear it was pretty much the same story.

One of the stranger things about TGA, as opposed to regular amnesia, is that you do not forget who you are or anything that you knew prior to the event.   You just lose the ability to store anything in your short-term memory.  Nothing, nada, zilch. I was able to do the exercises, sort of, according to my friends in the work out class.  I was able to drive my car home, even though I tried to get in the wrong car.  But you can’t do anything sequential that depends on knowing what you’ve already done.  Because you are truly living in the moment, and you remember nothing of this later.  After it recedes, you start forming new memories though you are kind of loopy and inconsistent and hella confused for an hour or so, and you also are kind of foggy about the events leading up to the TGA.

They don’t know a lot about it because it is so rare and has a short duration and because anyone having an attack is never going to formulate a plan to get to the emergency room. They think they are perfectly fine.  The few times people have made it to medical care before recovering they are generally initially diagnosed as being intoxicated, high on drugs or as having a stroke.  The first time I spent three days getting CAT scanned, MRI scanned and blood tested to rule out a stroke.  A visiting neurosurgeon happened to have had one patient with TGA and he diagnosed me, otherwise I might not have ever known what happened.   This was several years ago, they do now have an MRI test that can find markers of TGA after an event, I believe.  The second time I never went for care, because I knew what it was and that there was no treatment.

The second Gray’s Anatomy weird medical problem I have involves an organ being in the wrong place, I’m not going to get specific because that’s just too much information, in my opinion.  Suffice it to say that 25 out of 100,000 have this same issue and that it is treatable.  I have put off surgery to fix it for about eight years because the mortality rate for the surgery was in the 3% range and because my symptoms were not that bad.  However, it has gotten worse recently and scans show it is probably significantly impacting my heart and lung functions and needs to be fixed.  Also, the mortality rate from surgery is more in the one percent range now. 

The emergency surgery mortality is still around 3% so my odds are far better if I choose my surgeon and do this on a planned basis instead of waiting until it becomes an emergency, maybe when I’m hiking in the middle of nowhere with my wife. So, I’m getting the surgery done at the end of this month.  Wish me luck!

I will have the pleasure of going 7 days on a clear liquid, no sugar, no alcohol diet prior to surgery and a month of only a slightly less restricted diet afterwards.  I also won’t be able to run or play tennis or pickleball for weeks.  On the other hand, if it works out perfectly, I might get some of my endurance back, which is just a shadow of what it used to be.  Even if I only get 5 or 10% more oxygen uptake that would be huge for me in both my running and tennis, so I’m very hopeful.

If I draw that 1% lottery ticket and don’t make it, well, its been fun knowing you folks. But I’ve generally been very lucky in the positive direction so I do not expect that to change this time.  I’m virtually certain I’ll get to post some serious office boy whining about wasting away on soup and Crystal lite in the near future. 

What about you, have you got any of those super rare medical defects that you don’t mind mentioning?

Have you ever had to consider elective surgery that has some risks of not working or of even making things worse?

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GET OFF MY LAWN!

I’m not a touchy person, I am very OK with other people having other opinions than mine.  In fact, about the only time I get sideways with those opinions is when they are uninformed guesses based on stereotypes.  Where I see this the most in the personal finance, financial independence and retire early communities is when it comes to the assumptions younger adults make about “old” people.  

Most of the people who show the most ignorance about aging are in their forties or younger.  This is reasonable because someone like me, in my sixties, fully understands what it is like to be 24, because I’ve been there.  But a 24 year old is abysmally ignorant of life at 65 because they have zero first hand experience of what 65 feels like.  It is something they can only make assumptions about based on older relatives and coworkers and, of course, popular stereotypes.    So they casually dispense common tropes about  people who are in their fifties or older.  And society at large feels like that is OK, even though to do that based on gender, sexual preference, race or religion would be clearly out of bounds. 

This takes a lot of forms, but the most frequent goes something like this.  “I don’t want to work until I’m X years old because I will be too old to enjoy my life, even if I have plenty of money invested.”  And in many cases X is as young as 50 years old.  They state as if it were a fact that they won’t be able to play sports, travel, surf, party, hike, climb, run, backpack, enjoy fine cuisine or handle mentally challenging tasks.  Apparently they base that on the oldest and most decrepit people they’ve ever known. 

Now certainly there will be a day for all of us who survive long enough, when physical and/or mental capability greatly restricts the activities we can participate in.  I’m not arguing that there isn’t a date for each of us when it would be factual to label us as “old”.  That might be based on what percent of the average life span we’ve attained or better based on the amount of physical decline we exhibit.  But what does offend me is the blanket assumption that someone who has reached a certain age, be it 50 or 80, is no longer able to participate in the same activities they enjoyed in their younger days.  

I’m 65 and my wife is 66.  A couple of months ago she ran a marathon with a 40 year old friend. They finished side by side and they both won their age groups, in fact my wife won the over 50’s even though she was sixteen years past fifty.  This last weekend, we both played on 40 and over tennis teams.  Her team won the state tournament and mine didn’t, but we didn’t finish last either. We were competing against much younger opponents and we did this outside in the sun under 110 deg F heat index conditions.   We both get up before 5AM three days a week to run four or five miles.  We both play tennis four or five times a week and some pickle ball in addition to that.  We hike, we bushwhack and we ride rugged off road trails in our side by side ATV.  We fish and take care of home, lawn and vehicle maintenance.  She builds furniture and outbuildings. I run some large nonprofits. 

What’s my point?  Not that we are special, its the opposite of that!  My wife and I are quite typical of the friends we run with.  In fact while our running group has people as young as 40 in it it also has several guys in their 70’s, including our fastest runner.  My point is that I can’t think of a thing I could do in my twenties, thirties or forties that I can’t still do.  Sure, I was faster then, but the amount of deterioration in my physical abilities is still relatively small, and nowhere near enough to prevent me from being competitive at the same sport I competed at in high school.  In fact that high school version of me would get badly beaten on the tennis court by older me if that match were possible.  Much more so for my spouse who has barely lost a step over time. 

We play tennis every week with a couple of guys in their 80’s.  We’ve got one other friend who is 90 who still has game.  Yet I’ve got other friends who have gone sedentary as they’ve gotten older and who would have died if they had tried to exert themselves in the brutal heat of that weekend tennis tournament.  And those are the people that get noticed and give the rest of us much fitter seniors a frail image.  And someday I’ll be in that group as well, but not today.  The thing younger adults don’t get is that when I returned three lightning fast, in my face, net volleys and then jumped high to crush the final overhead to win our third set tiebreaker yesterday it was just as big a thrill as any high school victory or any tournament win in my forties.  Life is not in any way less fun than it was then. This is truly the best time of my life! 

I guess I’m saying that if you fear you’ll only be able to afford to retire when you are an ancient 57 years old, put that fear away.  Happiness does not deteriorate over time, it gets better.  And if you keep moving and working out you’ll likely maintain a very fit body to much older than you think. I think becoming financially independent well before conventional retirement age is smart, because it gives you options.  But assuming you’ll be unable to enjoy life when you retire as fully as you can now, that’s very pessimistic.  And it is something you have a great deal of control over if you do the right things now. Invest in your financial future and your physical future with equal amounts of fervor and discipline.  I certainly  don’t regret any of the twenty-three thousand miles I have ran since starting in my thirties. 

And please, consider giving the older crowd some slack, especially when you consider the older you.  That future you might be a heck of a lot tougher and fitter than you think, and might even pass you in a marathon some day.   

What about it? Am I just a cranky old “Get Off My Lawn!” geriatric or am I right about younger bloggers and commenters constantly throwing older people under the bus? 

Surely you know some people in their 60’s and 70’s that are physical specimens?  If you do give them some love in a comment. 

Why do you think it is OK to use stereotypes for senior adults that would be totally unacceptable if used regarding race, gender, etc. ?

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